By Paula Bianchi –

We all know life isn’t easy, but when we have to deal with one thing on top of another then another, we can begin to feel quite overwhelmed. For some, by the time they have reached this point, they’re more than ready to throw their hands up and surrender because they can’t see an end to their dilemma.

When someone who is close to us suddenly dies, we’re overwhelmed with grief, and it takes a long time for us to learn how to live our lives without them.

If we lose our job, we can feel overwhelmed by not having a steady income anymore causing us to feel an increasing urgency to find another job as fast as we possibly can.

We can feel overwhelmed by the way others treat us, especially if they’re treating us unfairly, or if they’re on a mission to destroy us personally or professionally. To have a person like that in our lives, can make us see no end to our plight.

I can go on and on because the list of the things we have face during our lifetime is probably never ending.

Now, imagine you’re experiencing all of the above all at once. Anyone would feel at a loss having to deal with all of that at the same time. But all of this stuff happens for a reason, and there’s a lesson in everything we experience.

Everything I just talked about has one thing in common. They are all out of our control. The tests and the lessons we learn is all up to us because of our free will, and how we choose to deal with our problems, creates the karma we’ll carry for many lifetimes to come.

It’s a no brainer that we’ll have to deal with a lot of shit while we’re here. We can sure count on that. It’s how we respond to the problems in our lives. This is the test. This is the lesson we’ll carry with us from lifetime to lifetime.

Like I’ve said before, the secret to life is how we treat others. That’s our only guideline. We reap what we sow. If we sow negativity, we attract negativity. Meaning: if you treat someone badly, you’re probably going to be treated the same way to balance it out. If we sow positivity, we’ll attract positivity. Meaning: if you treat someone with kindness and respect, you’ll be treated the same to balance it out, but you’ll still have to endure poor treatment from negative people as a test in how you’ll respond to them.

Reminds me again of that quote in the bible; “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Pretty simple, right?

We can’t control if someone dies, or how people treat us, or if we lost our job (unless we did something to lose it), but we can control how we’re going to react, and how we’ll let it affect our lives.

Feeling overwhelmed is a mind game you can win, when, you put your mind to it. Our attitude is the key, so always check your attitude first.

If you allow jealousy, anger, hatred, greed, or revenge to rule your world, then, this energy will bring with it more negative problems for you to deal with.

If you make positive choices in life, not only are you making your life better, but you make the lives of those around you better too, which in turn, draws more positivity to you.

I can already hear people saying, “I do live positively, but I still have to deal with so much negative stuff.”

Yep. You sure will because even though you’re making positive choices, you’ll still be tested each and every day. Not only to see if you can be consistent, but also to see if you’ve learned the lesson of what that negativity was trying to teach you.

Most of our feelings of being overwhelmed happen because we need to step up and defend ourselves. This is very challenging for many people, but not for all.

There are many people in my life whom I look up to because they’re outspoken and don’t take any shit from others. Getting older teaches us to get tougher.  

People only continue to hurt us if we let them. Here then, lies the lesson we must learn, and that’s to stand up for ourselves, but if they continue to hurt you, you have every right to walk away. They may say you’re a coward for doing so, when actually, all we’re doing is choosing not to play their negative game anymore.

As far as dealing with things that are out of our control, this all depends on us, and the attitude we choose to deal with these unexpected events in our lives. Feeling overwhelmed is a state of being, meaning you always have control over it if you choose to.

So, take stock of your situation and don’t allow yourself to think there are no solutions to your problems because there usually is. When I hear someone say there’s nothing, they can do to make things better, it’s usually a cue that they don’t want to do what they have to do to fix their problem. 

It pays to have a little patience in life. Most of the stuff we deal with gets better over time, and by the choices we make, but most importantly, we have to be patient with ourselves.

Feeling overwhelmed, is just another mind game we play every day. It’s up to us on how we’re going to navigate our way through everything life has to throw at us. Keep it positive, treat others how you want to be treated, and always remember: Where your thoughts go; your energy flows.

In my next Mind Games article, I’ll talk about the virtue of patience. Thanks for stopping by. Stay safe, and be well. Bye for now.

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