By Paula Bianchi –
Well, I was going to write an article about procrastination, but I decided to procrastinate on that. Lol. Instead, I feel the need to write about our thoughts, and how they affect us and those around us.
All of our thoughts are pure energy, which makes them very powerful. There’s power in what we think about, or say to, ourselves and others. Our experiences shape and form our thoughts which fuels our inner dialog.
With one negative spoken word or phrase, you can devastate someone you love or bring a whole shit load of problems raining down on you. This can be done intentionally or unintentionally. The energy of our thoughts and words can be used like weapons against people. Just one word of criticism given in the wrong tone of voice, can send a sensitive child into a world of continual self-doubt.
When we come here to Earth, it’s a given that we’ll have to deal with negative people. Just like with everything else, there are different types of negative people out there with different degrees of negativity. Why do they choose to be so negative? Because they let their thoughts focus on all things negative, which in turn lets their negative dialog dictate their choices. An important thing to remember is, some negative people have no empathy for anybody or anything. But all is not lost. They still have the free-will to change and put their negative thoughts and actions behind them.
Some of us, due to our upbringing, may suffer from self-defeating thoughts and feelings. We can dwell in critical thoughts about ourselves or others, then we get stuck there because we refuse to think any differently. This is one example of being your own worst enemy.
Thoughts, when repeated continually, can take on a life all on their own. They create an energy that surrounds us and energizes our auras. This is the energy our “battery” sends out into the universe attracting like energy back to us. Our unfounded fears can either consume us or give us an “I’ll cross that bridge when I get there” kind of attitude depending on which energy you’re willing to feed.
It’s hard to watch a loved one, or a friend, going through hard times, when we know everything they’re going through, was brought upon them because of their own thoughts, feelings, and attitude. Not everything we want in life, is good for us, and it’s hard watching someone make such bad choices especially if they feel we should bail them out no matter how many negative choices they make.
Our lives are so intricately planned, and all the people in our lives are placed there for a reason. Usually it’s a lesson from a karmic debt that’s owed by you or they owe you. The one thing we have to remember is, nothing’s written in stone. You can change any negative lesson into a positive one with your thoughts and choices.
A hypothetical example of this may be: I have feelings for my best friend’s boyfriend, and he’s been showing some interest in me, so much so, that I know I’ll have no problem getting him to be with me and for some subconscious reason, I feel compelled to get him. Now the stage is set for my BFF, her boyfriend, and I to balance our karmic debt because they had done this to me in a past-life during the Roman times leaving me totally devastated. Even with all the pieces falling right into place, I still have the free-will to change it because I’ve been living a positive life with positive thoughts, and I can’t bring myself to hurt my best friend, so I choose not to be involved in ruining her relationship by doing the right thing and shutting down the whole scenario. So, what happens to my karmic debt? It’s now considered paid in full. That was my only chance to make them ‘feel’ what they had done to me. Instead, my choice elevated my energy causing my aura to radiate with positive enlightened energy.
It’s so easy getting caught up in thoughts of; revenge, entitlement, jealousy, envy, searching for justice, ill will towards others, everybody’s out to get you, and greed to name a few. Thoughts like these can send you down negative paths in life, which brings more negative to you. We are our thoughts. Sometimes it may be in your best interest to just let things go if you want to eliminate the drama it brings.
Through therapy and meditation, I’ve learned how to control my thoughts instead of them controlling me. The first thing I learned was you have to let go of the past and whatever happened to you in it. By holding on to the past, you keep yourself stuck in the energy of it giving it permission to continue. You victimize yourself every time you relive it and let it still have power over you. You can’t change the past no matter how hard you wish you could, but you can change the way you think about it. You have to accept it, so you can move on with your life. You can’t move forward if you’re living your life staring in the review mirror.
How can we change our thoughts? We have to redirect them. It’s not going to be easy because our inner voice will fight us every step of the way. The choir in our heads will do their best to divert us and bring us back to our bad thoughts. There’s so much that happens to us in life that’s out of our control. We have to learn how to react to all the negative input positively because it’s all happening as a lesson to do exactly that.
To start redirecting your thoughts you’ll need, a notebook or journal, so you can start a gratitude journal. Each day, I want you to write down 5 things you’re grateful for. When you see people out in public, look for things you like about a them instead of what you don’t like. This is a way to get you to focus on all the positive in your life and around you. Next, any worrying thoughts, or a need for revenge for something that was out of your control, you have to tell yourself to let them go, then replace them with happy thoughts. Your thoughts have power and when you decide to take control of them by turning them into positive energy, you’re protecting yourself from negative people because you’ll recognize them for what they are the moment you meet them. Where your thoughts go; your energy flows.
In my next Mind Games article, I’ll tackle procrastination. Maybe. Hehehe. Thanks for the visit. Bye for now.