By Paula Bianchi –

The most important psychological tool I learned to use from therapy was: acceptance. Without it, I never would have moved on from my tortured past. I say tortured in the sense of dealing with my own thoughts and emotions about being molested when I was a kid.

It’s indescribable the thoughts, feelings, and emotions I carried with me throughout my life because of how a sick minded adult treated me. What makes it even more twisted is his statement that he was doing it out of love for me. It meant (to him) that we had a “special” relationship. If it was so special, then, why did I hate him so much.

To be a kid dealing with adult issues, is overwhelming, and just because I grew up, it didn’t make it any easier to deal with. At the time, the tool I used was avoidance…